Halle Berry attended the Mayor’s Fund Benefit Dinner in New York City last week in support of The Family Justice Centers which assists in domestic violence prevention and intervention. Continuing her personal mission to raise awareness on the serious issue of domestic violence, she shared her personal struggle of watching her mother be abused and in turn, as an adult she chose men that were just like her father:
“When I was a girl and my mother had the s–t kicked out of her, her self-esteem moved onto me.”
“I devalued myself and thought I wasn’t worth it. I chose partners that mimicked my father. It was only when I was in an abusive relationship and blood squirted on the ceiling of my apartment and I lost 80% of my hearing in my ear that I realized, I have to break the cycle.”
“I want women to stand up and break the silence and get rid of the shame and the fear and find a way to stand up for themselves.”
Back in 2004, Christopher Williams ratted out actor Wesley Snipes as the guy who abused Halle:
The stuff they wrote about [me] and Halle was totally false. They said something like I busted her eardrum, and I’m tired of it. I never said it [before] but I’m so tired of people thinking I’m the guy [who did it]. Wesley Snipes busted her eardrum, not me.
Ever since then, Halle has vowed that she would leave the relationship at the first sign that abuse may take place.
“I never had to run to a shelter, but I did choose the wrong partners. Not always good men. Luckily, in recent years, I have been smart enough to hit the door when violence even becomes a possibility. That is something I will not tolerate.”
I’m so happy to see that Halle recognizes the cycle must be broken, especially as a mother of a young daughter. Kudos to her for taking her negative experiences and flipping it to educate others.